Everyone has goals that they would like to achieve. Your goals help to keep you moving forward, even when you’re uncertain or down about something.
Focusing on your goals gives you purpose and enjoyment in life.
With that in mind, it’s valuable to remember that not all goals have to be about work or money. There are plenty of goals that have to do with hobbies, travel, relationships, and other areas of life. The truth is, relationships are an often-overlooked key ingredient to an overall life of joy.
What Kind of Relationship Goals Do You Have?
Relationship goals are sometimes less specific in nature than goals for money or certain accomplishments. I believe it’s important in love and relationships that you create SMART goals! What are SMART goals, well if you work in a corporate environment you are probably very familiar with this acronym.
SMART stands for: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely. For example, you may want to get married by next year. Ok! Here’s a few questions to ask yourself with that goal: What measures or actions will you take to place yourself in a position to meet eligible single men? Is it achievable for you to marry within 12 months, have you been setting yourself up to be a wife? What type of husband do you desire? Now, I’ll be honest here, I don’t like the word “realistic” because I truly believe all things are possible! I would ask have you elevated yourself to the level you are seeking from a partner? Lastly timely, are you giving yourself enough grace and proper space around the time for your marriage desire?
Try these strategies to help yourself achieve your relationship goals sooner:
1. Know yourself. Take the time to understand and get to know yourself, so you know what you have to offer in a relationship. Take good care of yourself both mentally and physically, as that will make you much more attractive to the right partner.
2. Stabilize your financial life. Most people prefer someone who is financially stable. Money worries can affect a relationship in a very negative way, sometimes before it even gets started.
3. Be open to new experiences. Get off the couch and into the game. Get out there and meet new people. Attend church functions, community events, and other gatherings where you can meet people with similar interests.
Family and Friends Matter, Too
Even if romance is far from your radar, you probably still have relationship goals in mind. Would you like to be emotionally closer to extended family? Perhaps you’re interested in making amends with an elderly parent before it’s too late.
Make your relationships a priority by envisioning how you want them to be.
Those desires are your relationship goals.
Work steadily to advance your goals, so you can see them come to pass more quickly. Consistent, positive action is the key. You can improve your relationships in many ways. For example:
- Be the first one to reach out. You’ll repair or advance relationships with action.
- Find out what other people need from you, so you can meet those needs if possible.
- Be honest about your feelings. Tell people what you want and need from them.
Above all, be willing to open your heart to those that matter the most to you.
You might be surprised to find a willing recipient on the other end that has been waiting for you all along. When you’re willing to leave your comfort zone and pursue meaningful relationship goals, you’ll experience a richer and more fulfilling life than you ever dreamed was possible.
If you’re ready to get started, grab a pen and paper. Close the door so you won’t be interrupted for about 30 minutes. Write the name of someone who’s important to you at the top of the page.
Now write a description of your ideal relationship with this person. (This exercise also applies to the marriage partner you desire!) Repeat this process for each of the important relationships in your life. Review these descriptions often and begin to take steps to move those relationships in that direction. When you do, you’ll experience the happiness you were created to experience!