There Comes a Time to Decide, Woman!

 

I remember the day as if it were yesterday, literally! The day that I made a decision that would change the trajectory of my life.

Looking out the window of my brand-spanking-new top-floor apartment with the cute French doors and wraparound balcony overlooking the beautiful hillside, I declared: “This is the LAST year I am going to be single!”

I was 30-something…LOL…and thought by then I would have been in a committed and loving relationship. I was beginning to have THOSE thoughts about having children and my biological clock was starting to tick,tick,tick…

In that moment, I made up my mind that I wasn’t going to be single anymore. I wasn’t going to celebrate another holiday alone!

Now understand, some single ladies enjoy spending the holidays fancy free; I AM NOT one of them!! I’ve always enjoyed the thought of being with someone special, someone whom I adore and would spend my holidays and go to parties with. I love the idea of being a couple holding hands with my Prince Charming – always have and likely always will!

In this moment by the window, I vividly remember asking myself….

“DANYELLE, WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO MEET THE ONE?” and ”WHY IS IT TAKING SO LONG?”

Why indeed…What was blocking me?  I came to find out that the “block” was simple: I NEVER MADE A TRUE DECISION!

I hadn’t truly decided what I wanted in a relationship. And real love…? I was raised in a Christian home and the idea was that you simply…wait on God. Well, I’d BEEN waiting and nothing was happening!

After some time devoted to deep self-study and personal development, I uncovered the truth at last: It was ME! It was up to ME to make a move and decide what I wanted in my life…my love life. THAT’s what brought me to the decision and declaration at the window. I spoke verbally – out into the world – on what I wanted.

When you make a DECISION, God and universal principles begin to work on your behalf to bring you what you truly desire.

And you know what? By the following year I DID have a man in my life. Not JUST a man but a man I was engaged to, the love of my life and the king of our home!

Now I understand the IMPORTANCE of making a life decision. The importance of declaring what you truly want and desire out of life and FOR your life. Never compromising what is in your heart!

I’ve always wanted my Prince Charming, and here he was. Admittedly, he came in a different package from what I thought (but that’s another article!). Nevertheless, God knew what my heart needed and what I truly desired.

This is such an important thing to know about making a decision and holding onto your hopes. So many times we hold ourselves back, avoid drawing that line in the sand, because we have pictured one thing in our mind – and we’re afraid that it might not happen. So, we end up not making a decision at all, and never open up the possibility of it ever becoming a reality.

What if it turned out to be something different than you had pictured…but something BETTER than you had ever imagined?  And you’ve been around long enough to know that it’s not going to be perfect all the time, right? But I’m here to tell you, that the imperfection is OK, because  when your dream comes true you are ready for whatever may come. Because you are in the right place. You are living the life you desire. You are loved.

EVERY FAIRY TALE HAS OBSTACLES. THE BEAUTY IS KNOWING AND CONTINUING TO BELIEVE IN THE TALE UNTIL IT BECOMES YOUR REALITY!

Attention Single Ladies: NEVER give up on your hopes and dreams! Your king is out there seeking you. The question is, are you available to receive him? Have you made a firm, no-matter-what DECISION on what you truly desire in your life, partner or spouse? If not,  make a decision today. It’s time, Woman!

What do you do to prepare yourself? I got you here….

  • Take the time and space to get clear on WHAT YOU WANT.
  • Write down on paper your heart’s desire. List out the CHARACTER AND QUALITIES that you want in a partner.
  • Settle in your mind what you truly desire, then make the decision to CALL HIM INTO your life.
  • PREPARE, physically and literally prepare, to receive him by making the time and space to date, creating space for him in your home, and space in you to receive and be with another individual.

When you make that no-matter-what decision, that commitment to what you desire in your life, you begin to BE that person living that situation. And God has a way of moving you along that path to the reality you truly desire and deserve.

I’m here to help! I’m no different from you. And with all my being, heart and soul, I BELIEVE that any single woman, if she so desires, can meet and marry the love of her life!

Without a doubt, I believe this!

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The Love Manifestation Experience

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you finally to make 2018 your best year when it comes to your hearts desire?

If so, join me and a group of like minded single ladies who are ready to manifest the love she desires over 28 Days! This CAN be the year you obtain the loving relationship with a partner you truly desire. No more waiting, now is your time to let love in! The experience starts February 1st!! You ready??

To learn more about the 28 Day Love Manifestation Experience here

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Leading with Femininity for Personal Success

 

I can make this happen.  I can push my way through.  This thought has probably passed through the mind of every successful woman.  Because every successful woman (at least of my generation) was taught that success was unattainable unless it was achieved like a man. Through sheer force and determination, instead of with grace and ease.

Men and women are shown to have different tendencies.  Stereotypically men are seen as the bread winners, who rise to the top of corporate ladders.  Women are seen as the caretakers holding the family unit together behind the scenes.  What you might not know is that these tendencies are not at all related to a person’s gender.  

Both masculine and feminine qualities exist in all of us, on a sliding scale.  Masculine and feminine mean different things in different parts of the world and thus are culturally defined. 

In North America, masculine is defined as confident, aggressive, dominant, competitive, flashy, linear and goal driven.  The masculine sees the world as a hierarchy; he is in a constant race to the top.  Feminine, on the other hand, is defined as humble, avoidant, persuasive, collaborative, fluid and process oriented.  She views the world as a network of relationships and is interested in mutual success.  

Within each of us the masculine sets a destination and drives the car.  While the feminine fills in the details like gas and stops to enjoy the sights and the company along the way.  Together they arrive successfully with plenty of rest, ready to set off for the next destination.

The problem is that in a male dominated workplace little has been done to understand the benefits of the feminine to business, professional, and personal success.  

The Power of the Feminine

The masculine has been driving the car alone for much of the history of modern professional work.  The constant need to push forward without concern for personal well being has led to overwork, stress, exhaustion, and eventually burnout.  It’s no wonder that stress related deaths top the charts in industrialized countries.

For far too long the misconception has been that because the feminine is different, it is lesser, weak, or submissive.  It is not.  

The following feminine strengths are important to business success:

  • Building collaborations across teams and departments within an organization
  • Synthesizing direction based on data
  • Sharing the workload and personal sense of responsibility for a task
  • Leading by influence and persuasion versus command
  • Creating relationships to boost company moral
  • Embracing self care and rest

But there is a secret.  Neither energy on its own will lead to total success.  The best leaders know when to switch between masculine and feminine to serve the needs of the current situation.  And women have a strong advantage when it comes to this.  A Stanford study found that working women who had a strong balance between the masculine and feminine were more likely to get the promotion (even over men).  

Achieving Personal Success

During work hours it is so easy to stay in the masculine.  There are lists to tackle and bonuses to be earned.  But overly masculine women aren’t the ones who land the corner office or make it to the c-suite.  When the guys at the office start using words like “too aggressive” about you, it’s time to turn up the feminine at bit and reap the benefits of achieving success with ease.

Plus if you spend too much time at work out of balance it can be difficult to find balance at home.  Home requires a different kind of balance than work.  Work life requires an internal balance of masculine and feminine, home life requires an external balance.  At work you are the captain of your own ship but at home there are two people who must balance command.

One person must take on the feminine role externally and the other person must take on the masculine role externally for a relationship to thrive.  

Polarity is good. Opposites attract. Do you really want a feminine man?

Remember the example of driving the car.  Someone needs to drive and someone needs to stop to ask for directions.  If you both try to drive in your relationship (which is what tends to happen in unbalanced relationships) you will never leave or you will just keep circling the block.

I will say it again the feminine is not weak.

In fact, I would argue that the feminine has the power position because she gets to fill in all the details, then sit back and watch as the masculine goes out and makes it happen.  Plus the home needs the relationships, love and support that the feminine is all too eager to give.  It is the best thing to come home after being in charge all day and let someone else take care of me.  Neither my husband nor I would be in the successful positions we are in at work if we didn’t allow for the balance of our masculine and feminine at home.  

Turning Off the Masculine

You probably already know how to turn on the masculine.  Just check your emails and listen to your mind start to work.  The feminine isn’t something that can be activated with a lot of thinking.  You often do it without even knowing but here are a few ways to slip back into your feminine before you return home from a long day at work:

  1. Move your body.  After work is a great time to go to the gym or take up a dance class.
  2. Use your senses.  Especially your senses of smell, taste and touch.  Go grab a glass of wine and really take the time to enjoy it.
  3. Spend time with a female friend.  Talk about anything but work.  Bonus points if you pair this with one of the activities mentioned above.
  4. Laugh out loud.  Listen to a funny podcast on your commute home from work.
  5. Create something.  Paint, draw or sew.  Do anything that doesn’t require a specific outcome or goal.

What are your favorite ways to release feminine energy?  What would you add to the list?

Key Factors to Remember in Achieving Feminine Success:

  • Balance masculine and feminine for better communication and negotiation skills at work
  • Turn off masculine energy when fostering and developing personal/love relationships at home                                                                                        

 

Want to increase your feminine energy at home and start attracting an amazing love? Download my free ebook ‘The Ambitious Woman’s Guide to Finding Love’ for 3 simple steps to calling in the love you desire.

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The Corporate Woman’s Guide to Love

 

 

Climbing the corporate ladder can make love feel like an impossibility for today’s ambitious woman.  Forty years ago, only 5% of single women were over 30, now the percentage of women who have never married is closer to 20% as of 2012 and it is estimated to keep growing.  It is obvious that priorities have changed since the 1970s.  

If you are over 30 and still single, you are not alone.

Women’s equality has shifted the focus from supporting families to achieving higher education, successful careers and avoiding the mistakes of their parent’s generation.  The shift has been powerful yet daunting.

Let’s face it!  Life at the top can be lonely if you have no one to share it with.  Loneliness can almost seem better than trading dreams and ambition for love.  It’s not.  I’ve worked with women (who secretly desired love) on both sides of the equation and those who find meaningful love always win.

What about a woman’s career success?

Many women have given up on the idea of having it all.  They want both love and success but their quest to bridge the income gap and not be left behind their male counterparts for career advancement leaves them little time for committed relationships.  

There is still hope.  Yes I’m talking to you.  Let me share with you the secret that women in C-level positions know…  the biggest asset to a woman’s growing career is having an amazing supportive love in her life.  That’s it.

Facebook’s COO Sheryl Sandberg ($1.1 billion estimated net worth) attests that “the most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry.”  In her book Lean In, Sheryl goes on to say

And contrary to the notion that only unmarried women can make it to the top, the majority of the most successful female business leaders have partners. Of the twenty-eight women who have served as CEOs of fortune 500 companies, twenty-six were married, one was divorced, and only one had never married.

These are powerful statistics showing that a healthy committed relationship is just as important to attaining year end goals as Key Performance Indicators (KPIs).  In fundamental terms love at home fuels success at work.

Often the corporate women I work with have put their deep desire for love on the back burner because they don’t understand a few key points about love:

 

  • Love decreases people related job stress.  Let’s make it clear work will always bring some level of stress.  We are imperfect people dealing with other imperfect customers, coworkers, and bosses.  Who may just seem to have a bad day everyday.

    But when you have a fulfilling relationship at home you are filled up with love from your personal life.  Relieving the pressure of personal fulfillment and the need to feel valued from the other relationships at work.
    This leaves space to manage work relationships.  To deal with difficult people.  To develop professional interpersonal relationships.  All with support, care, and mindfulness of speech.

 

  • Love peaks performance levels at work.  Happy people are productive people.  Beyond that, when you are filled up in your personal relationship it makes you more excited to experience everyday.   It increases your pleasure and excitement with work because you now have someone to celebrate your wins with at home.  You are able to give more to your career knowing you can easily and fully recharge at home.  And you’re really able to do your best at work because it’s no longer just about your success but also about the joint success of your unit at home.

 

  • Love increases overall job satisfaction.  I wish I could tell you that after finding love everyday at work will always be the best day ever.  I can’t; it won’t.  I can tell you that having meaningful love in your life increases the good.  There’s always someone in your corner.  Even when you have a bad day, you have a partner that you can go home to and discuss your day.  You get to vent those feelings that were inappropriate to talk about at work.  In his arms, you have a safe place to relax, be 100% free, and feel completely supported.

How can a powerful woman make a meaningful relationship work?  

First, it is important as a corporate woman to understand the importance of a relationship and love in your life.  What would it mean to you to have someone to share your life with?  Honor your answer to that question.  Give it as much validity to your overall success as your career goals.

Next, make time for love.  There is always something more to do at the office; let it be.  Don’t stay at the office well beyond business hours.  Set limits.  Go home.  Get ready.  And go out with your partner.

Trust me you will not build a meaningful relationship sitting in a cold office building.  

Last, track the level at which you pursue KPIs and all the things that come with those (awards, bonuses, promotions).  Then apply the same level of effort to pursuing your love.  Once you have mastered these three things you will have achieved the relationship you desire along with a man who supports honors and respects you as the powerful woman that you are.

What if you have yet to find love?  What if you’re not even dating?  I’ve been there and after 9 years building a power relationship with my amazing love; I’ve developed a tool to help you call in yours.

Download my free ebook ‘The Ambitious Woman’s Guide to Finding Love’ for 3 simple steps to calling in the love you desire. Click here for your copy!

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Scholarship Opportunity for Lasting Love Program

Lasting Love Mini Intensive Program

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love changes everything! I truly believe this with all my heart!  Being in Paris the last two weeks have opened my eyes and heart in so many ways, that I’m bursting with love and gratitude!  More about my life changing experience in Paris coming soon!

I have on my heart to offer three (3) scholarships for my half day Lasting Love Mini Intensive.

The intensive will be a half day (4 hours) either in person at a luxury location (think Las Vegas Suite….ooooh la la….)  or virtual meeting from the comfort of your home. During our time together we will go deep into barriers that may be preventing you from obtaining the lasting love you truly desire but importantly how to overcome so that you obtain the love you long for.

The scholarship is valued at $1750, which means if you are selected your cost is only $750 for this luxury experience. The normal price for my half day intensives are $2500.  A gift that I give wholeheartedly with all my love.  For I truly KNOW that love does change everything.

This is a needs-based scholarship for those who want to work with me but are having a financial challenge.  This opportunity is my love gift to YOU.

An application process is required. If you are interested and ready for love to change everything in your life, click here for the application and consideration.
Say yes to love not fear! For love does truly change everything ?

xoxo
Danyelle

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Are YOU a Superwoman? You shouldn’t be!

While as women we often want to be perceived as “perfect”.  The perfect wife, mother, daughter, employee, cook, gardner, entertainer, being everything to everyone else but ourselves. Being everything to everyone else but ourselves is simply a recipe for burnout! Have you taken the time to really think about what it is YOU truly want? Often when I ask women this question, many don’t have an answer!  That’s because as givers we are always thinking about other people, always thinking about how we may please someone else but rarely do we take time to think about ourselves.  This is what I’m on a journey to change.

I want beautiful, intelligent, hard-working women to begin thinking about their own dreams and desires instead of always thinking about others. This is not being selfish but instead this is being the most giving.  For you have to give fully to yourself and fill you up before you can give to anyone else.  Ever heard of the term, “you can’t give from an empty cup”?  If your personal cup is empty, what can you give to others? What can you give to your daughter if you’re empty on the inside.  Just think about it.

I challenge you today to begin to think about your dreams and desires.  What is it that you would love to do, just for yourself?  Not for your husband, not for your children, not for your sister or brother but something just for you, to make you smile and feel great! Think about your dreams and desires but not only that, begin to journal about your desires and you’ll find the more you think about what you truly want, puts you on the path to achieving your desires.

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The Superwoman, the Perfectionist

Why is it women have a hard time putting themselves first? By being a perfectionist and superwoman,too many women deplete themselves of all their energy by saying “yes” to everyone else.  Yes, to working hard, really hard.  I’m talking overtime, late nights and early mornings hard! Yes, to husbands, yes to children, yes to parents, yes to everyone else but themselves.  Is it that if we do consider saying yet to ourselves first we might think we’re being selfish?

As a working woman are you trying to be all things to all people? Do you feel like you must be perfect, that is the perfectionist? The perfect employee, the perfect wife, the perfect mom.

The truth is, when you take time for yourself you are in a better position to serve and give to others in your life in a greater way.

Here are three simple times to “detox: from being a Superwoman!

  1. Consider yourself to be your own best friend.
    • There’s a saying, love your neighbor as yourself.  That’s because you can’t truly love anyone else unless you love yourself first.  When you think about your best friend, don’t you care about them and love them dearly? You need to think and feel the same way about your relationship with yourself.
  2. Learn to say ‘no” often and without guilt.
    • There is nothing wrong with saying “NO” to some people and some things in your life! Figure out what’s your priority and so “NO” to everything else.  I dare you to try it for a full day!  Trust me after the first few no’s and giving yourself the gift of more time, you’ll thank me.
  3. Learn to delegate.
    • Delegation is a beautiful thing, once you learn how to do it successfully. Delegating to others then stressing out and micro-managing others isn’t  successfully delegating.  Enjoy the process of lightening your load.

Now, you are well on your way to detoxing from The Superwoman Syndrome.

 

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Dare to Live Confidently

Danyelle Gibson-Grant

Life is a beautiful gift; a gift we should never take for granted. As such, we should live our lives as women to the greatest extent possible.

Living our lives in the most confident way we can, in a way that values who we truly are, places us in a position to live fully confident. When you own your confidence you dare to live a bigger life!  You dare yourself to do bigger and greater things and you learn more about yourself in that process.  You begin to recognize that you are capable of so much more.     You begin to recognize and understand strengths in yourself that you didn’t know you had!

Old fears and old ways of doing things begin to dissipate as you do all of this by taking one step.  By making that one decision that “I  WILL”….that I will despite the fear, step out and be true to myself.  Step out and own my worth.  Step out and walk into my confidence.           Just imagine the joy that you will feel in doing things you’ve always want to do.  To achieve successes, you’ve always desired to achieve.  To live life in a full, purposeful and meaningful way.  Now, you will begin to expect and receive good things in your life.

How you think about life and what you desire is the first step.  Making a decision to live fully confident in obtaining what you desire out of your life is the next step.

Take a moment to really THINK about living a life you love.  Traveling where you desire to travel, living in the home of your dreams, providing for your family in the way you’ve always wanted to. Think about all wonderful new people who will be brought into your life because of the new confidence you are exhibiting.  Think of all the people whose life you are now touching because you decided to live and walk in your confidence. That’s powerful!

 

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5 Simple Ideas to Pamper Yourself

Everyone deserves a bit of pampering now and then, right? Pampering doesn’t have to mean tons of time or money, though; it can be something small. Below is a list of five simple ways you can pamper yourself anytime.

1. Bubble Bath

Candlelit bubble bath
Candlelit bubble bath

Never underestimate the power of an aromatherapy bubble bath. Splurge on some bath salts or bubble bath in your favorite scent, then dim all of the lights and enjoy your spa day at home.

2. Sweet Treat

For a simple, affordable bit of pampering, select one or two of your favorite truffles, and indulge in a glass of bubbly champagne!  Not sparking wine, although I do love my Cuvee! Champagne is the best and sometimes a small luxury goes a long way in pampering yourself.

3. Massage

Instead of an, hour-long massage, opt for a quick, luxurious chair massage. Any good masseuse will leave you feeling pampered and relaxed in no time.

4. Flowers

Bouquet made of artifical pink peony laying on a wood surface. Shot against pink wall background. Shallow DOF.
Bouquet made of pink peony

A bouquet of your favorite fresh flowers does a wonderful job of providing a simple pleasure. I love to simply smell the aroma of fresh cut flowers. Nothing says beauty and pleasure like a flower.

5. Candles or Diffusers

Aromatherapy candles or diffusers are a perfect way to pamper yourself. Simply light it, lay down and enjoy the indulgent feeling of relaxation. For even more pampering, curl up with extra pillows and your favorite book.

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Get Inspired

3 Places I Get Inspiration

Inspiration is all around us and is especially found in Mother Nature.  All we need to do is slow down and start paying attention to the beauty that is unfolding in front of us.  Life can run so fast that our natural instinct is to run faster to catch up but maybe we need to stop and acknowledge with gratitude all the things we have.  It’s about being mindful, living in the present moment and changing your perspective from longing to appreciating. 

There are 3 places where I get inspiration from and I would like to share them with you.

  1. The beach and ocean.  There’s something about feeling the sand between my toes and being beside water that draws me in like a magnet; the sound of the waves, birds overhead, feeling the wind against my face, breathing the salt air or watching the sunrise or sunset.  It definitely stimulates the senses and makes me feel inner peace when I’m there, like a piece of heaven.
  2. A beautiful park.  I love walking through a beautiful park because it has all the amenities like bike paths, playground equipment, picnic tables, tall trees for shade, green grass for sitting in, and maybe a canteen to buy a special treat.  It’s a wonderful, happy place to sit back and relax, watching kids play and laugh while spending quality time with the people I love.
  3. Yosemite National Park.  Famous for its ancient, giant sequoia trees, the towering Bridal Veil Falls, and the granite cliffs of El Capitan and Half Dome.  It’s no wonder photographer Ansel Adams found inspiration here as well because you can’t help but get swept away by the beauty of this park and what it has to offer.  You can explore for the day or camp overnight but I guarantee you will leave inspired after visiting and experiencing the tranquility of Yosemite.  It’s a great place to lose yourself so you can find yourself.

We are here to experience life to the fullest, finding inspiration each and every day.  Mother Nature’s playgrounds are always waiting for you to get out and explore, change your mind, and find your soul. 

Where do you find inspiration?