Love & Relationship

There Comes a Time to Decide, Woman!

 

I remember the day as if it were yesterday, literally! The day that I made a decision that would change the trajectory of my life.

Looking out the window of my brand-spanking-new top-floor apartment with the cute French doors and wraparound balcony overlooking the beautiful hillside, I declared: “This is the LAST year I am going to be single!”

I was 30-something…LOL…and thought by then I would have been in a committed and loving relationship. I was beginning to have THOSE thoughts about having children and my biological clock was starting to tick,tick,tick…

In that moment, I made up my mind that I wasn’t going to be single anymore. I wasn’t going to celebrate another holiday alone!

Now understand, some single ladies enjoy spending the holidays fancy free; I AM NOT one of them!! I’ve always enjoyed the thought of being with someone special, someone whom I adore and would spend my holidays and go to parties with. I love the idea of being a couple holding hands with my Prince Charming – always have and likely always will!

In this moment by the window, I vividly remember asking myself….

“DANYELLE, WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO MEET THE ONE?” and ”WHY IS IT TAKING SO LONG?”

Why indeed…What was blocking me?  I came to find out that the “block” was simple: I NEVER MADE A TRUE DECISION!

I hadn’t truly decided what I wanted in a relationship. And real love…? I was raised in a Christian home and the idea was that you simply…wait on God. Well, I’d BEEN waiting and nothing was happening!

After some time devoted to deep self-study and personal development, I uncovered the truth at last: It was ME! It was up to ME to make a move and decide what I wanted in my life…my love life. THAT’s what brought me to the decision and declaration at the window. I spoke verbally – out into the world – on what I wanted.

When you make a DECISION, God and universal principles begin to work on your behalf to bring you what you truly desire.

And you know what? By the following year I DID have a man in my life. Not JUST a man but a man I was engaged to, the love of my life and the king of our home!

Now I understand the IMPORTANCE of making a life decision. The importance of declaring what you truly want and desire out of life and FOR your life. Never compromising what is in your heart!

I’ve always wanted my Prince Charming, and here he was. Admittedly, he came in a different package from what I thought (but that’s another article!). Nevertheless, God knew what my heart needed and what I truly desired.

This is such an important thing to know about making a decision and holding onto your hopes. So many times we hold ourselves back, avoid drawing that line in the sand, because we have pictured one thing in our mind – and we’re afraid that it might not happen. So, we end up not making a decision at all, and never open up the possibility of it ever becoming a reality.

What if it turned out to be something different than you had pictured…but something BETTER than you had ever imagined?  And you’ve been around long enough to know that it’s not going to be perfect all the time, right? But I’m here to tell you, that the imperfection is OK, because  when your dream comes true you are ready for whatever may come. Because you are in the right place. You are living the life you desire. You are loved.

EVERY FAIRY TALE HAS OBSTACLES. THE BEAUTY IS KNOWING AND CONTINUING TO BELIEVE IN THE TALE UNTIL IT BECOMES YOUR REALITY!

Attention Single Ladies: NEVER give up on your hopes and dreams! Your king is out there seeking you. The question is, are you available to receive him? Have you made a firm, no-matter-what DECISION on what you truly desire in your life, partner or spouse? If not,  make a decision today. It’s time, Woman!

What do you do to prepare yourself? I got you here….

  • Take the time and space to get clear on WHAT YOU WANT.
  • Write down on paper your heart’s desire. List out the CHARACTER AND QUALITIES that you want in a partner.
  • Settle in your mind what you truly desire, then make the decision to CALL HIM INTO your life.
  • PREPARE, physically and literally prepare, to receive him by making the time and space to date, creating space for him in your home, and space in you to receive and be with another individual.

When you make that no-matter-what decision, that commitment to what you desire in your life, you begin to BE that person living that situation. And God has a way of moving you along that path to the reality you truly desire and deserve.

I’m here to help! I’m no different from you. And with all my being, heart and soul, I BELIEVE that any single woman, if she so desires, can meet and marry the love of her life!

Without a doubt, I believe this!

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The Corporate Woman’s Guide to Love

 

 

Climbing the corporate ladder can make love feel like an impossibility for today’s ambitious woman.  Forty years ago, only 5% of single women were over 30, now the percentage of women who have never married is closer to 20% as of 2012 and it is estimated to keep growing.  It is obvious that priorities have changed since the 1970s.  

If you are over 30 and still single, you are not alone.

Women’s equality has shifted the focus from supporting families to achieving higher education, successful careers and avoiding the mistakes of their parent’s generation.  The shift has been powerful yet daunting.

Let’s face it!  Life at the top can be lonely if you have no one to share it with.  Loneliness can almost seem better than trading dreams and ambition for love.  It’s not.  I’ve worked with women (who secretly desired love) on both sides of the equation and those who find meaningful love always win.

What about a woman’s career success?

Many women have given up on the idea of having it all.  They want both love and success but their quest to bridge the income gap and not be left behind their male counterparts for career advancement leaves them little time for committed relationships.  

There is still hope.  Yes I’m talking to you.  Let me share with you the secret that women in C-level positions know…  the biggest asset to a woman’s growing career is having an amazing supportive love in her life.  That’s it.

Facebook’s COO Sheryl Sandberg ($1.1 billion estimated net worth) attests that “the most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry.”  In her book Lean In, Sheryl goes on to say

And contrary to the notion that only unmarried women can make it to the top, the majority of the most successful female business leaders have partners. Of the twenty-eight women who have served as CEOs of fortune 500 companies, twenty-six were married, one was divorced, and only one had never married.

These are powerful statistics showing that a healthy committed relationship is just as important to attaining year end goals as Key Performance Indicators (KPIs).  In fundamental terms love at home fuels success at work.

Often the corporate women I work with have put their deep desire for love on the back burner because they don’t understand a few key points about love:

 

  • Love decreases people related job stress.  Let’s make it clear work will always bring some level of stress.  We are imperfect people dealing with other imperfect customers, coworkers, and bosses.  Who may just seem to have a bad day everyday.

    But when you have a fulfilling relationship at home you are filled up with love from your personal life.  Relieving the pressure of personal fulfillment and the need to feel valued from the other relationships at work.
    This leaves space to manage work relationships.  To deal with difficult people.  To develop professional interpersonal relationships.  All with support, care, and mindfulness of speech.

 

  • Love peaks performance levels at work.  Happy people are productive people.  Beyond that, when you are filled up in your personal relationship it makes you more excited to experience everyday.   It increases your pleasure and excitement with work because you now have someone to celebrate your wins with at home.  You are able to give more to your career knowing you can easily and fully recharge at home.  And you’re really able to do your best at work because it’s no longer just about your success but also about the joint success of your unit at home.

 

  • Love increases overall job satisfaction.  I wish I could tell you that after finding love everyday at work will always be the best day ever.  I can’t; it won’t.  I can tell you that having meaningful love in your life increases the good.  There’s always someone in your corner.  Even when you have a bad day, you have a partner that you can go home to and discuss your day.  You get to vent those feelings that were inappropriate to talk about at work.  In his arms, you have a safe place to relax, be 100% free, and feel completely supported.

How can a powerful woman make a meaningful relationship work?  

First, it is important as a corporate woman to understand the importance of a relationship and love in your life.  What would it mean to you to have someone to share your life with?  Honor your answer to that question.  Give it as much validity to your overall success as your career goals.

Next, make time for love.  There is always something more to do at the office; let it be.  Don’t stay at the office well beyond business hours.  Set limits.  Go home.  Get ready.  And go out with your partner.

Trust me you will not build a meaningful relationship sitting in a cold office building.  

Last, track the level at which you pursue KPIs and all the things that come with those (awards, bonuses, promotions).  Then apply the same level of effort to pursuing your love.  Once you have mastered these three things you will have achieved the relationship you desire along with a man who supports honors and respects you as the powerful woman that you are.

What if you have yet to find love?  What if you’re not even dating?  I’ve been there and after 9 years building a power relationship with my amazing love; I’ve developed a tool to help you call in yours.

Download my free ebook ‘The Ambitious Woman’s Guide to Finding Love’ for 3 simple steps to calling in the love you desire. Click here for your copy!

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Scholarship Opportunity for Lasting Love Program

Lasting Love Mini Intensive Program

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love changes everything! I truly believe this with all my heart!  Being in Paris the last two weeks have opened my eyes and heart in so many ways, that I’m bursting with love and gratitude!  More about my life changing experience in Paris coming soon!

I have on my heart to offer three (3) scholarships for my half day Lasting Love Mini Intensive.

The intensive will be a half day (4 hours) either in person at a luxury location (think Las Vegas Suite….ooooh la la….)  or virtual meeting from the comfort of your home. During our time together we will go deep into barriers that may be preventing you from obtaining the lasting love you truly desire but importantly how to overcome so that you obtain the love you long for.

The scholarship is valued at $1750, which means if you are selected your cost is only $750 for this luxury experience. The normal price for my half day intensives are $2500.  A gift that I give wholeheartedly with all my love.  For I truly KNOW that love does change everything.

This is a needs-based scholarship for those who want to work with me but are having a financial challenge.  This opportunity is my love gift to YOU.

An application process is required. If you are interested and ready for love to change everything in your life, click here for the application and consideration.
Say yes to love not fear! For love does truly change everything ?

xoxo
Danyelle

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